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To really get why this past week had its moment of OH GOD I GET IT NAOW, I need to backtrack and first explain about my mother and the medical records clerks in Montgomery Alabama. Every transfer meant going on-base in August for the usual school physical-check-up thing that you have to do when entering a new school system. And that meant going to the medical building and the medical records office, where Mom would fill out a request slip so the clerks could retrieve our records. Something like that.

Those records (from what I recall) are stored in two general collections: one for active duty military, the other for retired military. So when the clerk accepts your records request slip, the first question the clerk asks is, "active duty or retired?" Except when we were in Montgomery, the clerk didn't ask that. I was nine at the time, so my mom had just turned 30... and I recall distinctly (thanks to my mother's tone of voice and the look on her face) when the clerk accepted the paper and simply asked, "retired?"

My mother's smile was cold enough and sharp enough to cut diamonds when she replied, "active duty."

A week later, she had my dad helping her with the frosting cap and the crochet hook to reverse-frost her hair (add dark streaks) to her salt-and-pepper silver-and-brunette hair. The irish in our family is where we get the early gray, but Mom wasn't going to deal with even one more instance of military clerks just assuming she was old enough to be retired. (Keep in mind also that my dad was an officer, in which case "retired" meant "had already done twenty years of service", and with most folks figuring that women are younger than their husbands, that would mean they were basically figuring Mom was at least forty, possibly mid-forties, and she was having none of that.)

Okay, now we fast-forward twenty-odd years, to last week when I had an Optomotrist appt to get new prescription and do the overall eye-health exam stuff. CP had used the doctor at Costco and had a good impression of her, so I figured that worked for me. (I should note I was wearing contacts at this point, though I had my old glasses with me.) I had a bit of time to kill before the appointment, so I wandered into Costco to see what prices for glasses and contacts are like now. I'm standing at the counter, looking around, and the clerk comes over to see if I need help.

Me: Hey. I'm in the market for new glasses and contacts.
Clerk: Do you have a prescription?
Me: It's out-dated. I've got an appointment in a half-hour, though.
Clerk: *smiles* How out-dated?
Me: Too much? I think my last eye exam was like, uhm, three years ago.
Clerk: Oh, that's not good at all! *gentle admonishment* Once you start wearing bifocals, you should get your eyes checked annually. Otherwise you could make your eyes worse.

Insert a very long pause here. I just stared for a least a good several seconds, before managing a reply.

Me: What makes you think I wear bifocals?
Clerk: ...
Me: ...
Clerk: I really put my foot in it with that one, didn't I.
Me: Yes, yes you did.

And then the clerk blinks a few times and says, "could we start over? here, hold on--" and then takes this deeeep breath, does this little shake, and then gives me a megawatt smile and says, "hi! are you interested in new glasses or contacts?" I didn't entirely laugh (and I didn't entirely forget the original assumption) but I did give the clerk a bit of credit for having the gumption to admit her screw-up and try to move on without making it worse.

Still. It was pretty much the equivalent of active-duty-or-retired, if you ask me. And all these years later, I had to call Mom and say, OH GOD NOW I GET IT.

Mom: So had you let your roots grow out, or what?*
Me: NO. THERE IS NO GRAY SHOWING.
Mom: Oh, that's much worse. You must have old eyes.
Me: NOT HELPING, MOM.

*Mom got the gray starting in college. I got it starting at 13. It's actually only in the past ten years or so that Mom's gotten as much gray I had by my late 20's. This is mostly because Mom's family doesn't have as much Irish as Dad's side of the family, and unfortunately I took after my paternal grandmother not just in shape and height but also in the goddamn gray.

It's only a partial consolation that when I finally did go to my doctor's appt, it turns out my eyes have gotten better. No, really! I had no idea that could happen. For the past five years or so, my eyes have been -4.50 and -3.75, and are now -2.50 and -3.00, respectively. Will wonders never cease. Curiously, the respective astigmatism levels were -1 and -1.75, and are now -1.5 and -.75, so the eye that most improved also got worse astigmatically, and the eye with less improvement is close to neglible astigmatism now, or negligble relatively, at least. I guess you win some, lose some. Regardless, I spent a good five minutes in absolute shock that my eyes could get better. I had no idea! I'd never met anyone who'd ever even implied such could happen!

Doctor: Well, as you get older, your eyes are more likely to get better.
Me: NO WAY.
Doctor: Yes, it's true.
Me: NO WAY. If only I'd known, I would've wanted to be OLDER A LOT SOONER!
Doctor: Also, if your prescription drops in strength, it's a sign that you probably won't need reading glasses until considerably later in life.
Me: Like I'd know. I can't bloody well see more than a foot away without blurring, even WITH the better prescription. HOW THE HELL WOULD I KNOW I NEED READING GLASSES?

On the downside, even if there are now extended-wear 30-day permeable-everything thinner-than-saran-wrap lenses (including toric versions), there are still no extended-wear toric colored contacts. I really hate that. I mean, toric eyeballs are the ones who could use the coloring the most people. Cripes. The advertising always says something like, "The tint is simply designed to facilitate locating the contact lenses." OH YAH RIGHT. If I could actually see well enough to spot that blue-tinted piece of freaking plastic where it's lying on the edge of my WHITE bathroom sink, then I could see well enough I wouldn't NEED the damn contacts in the first place. Again, credit to my mother who wrangled getting some of the earliest colored torics, in her own eye color (green), not for the cosmetic but because then she could SEE the stupid things if she dropped one. I learned her lesson, and did the same myself when it was my turn. (Even if it did mean proving to any friends witnessing the eye-contact business that my eyes are already green and the colored-lense had almost no impact on that, but that HEY LOOK THAR I could see the bright green spot on the bathroom sink or countertop from more than six inches away, whooo, and may I add, hoo, except for the whole no-I'm-not-vain-I'm-practical conversation which did get annoying but ANYWAY.)

However, those were one-year toric lenses, which at the time were like $350 or more for colored. Now you can get extended-wear torics for about $50 a box, but if you wanted colored, too? Try $100 a single lens. Still not cheap at all, and (fingers crossed here that I'm not tempting fate) I'm not quite as likely to lose lenses now as I was when I was younger, more impatient, and more likely to be getting ready for bed in a place unfamiliar to me... well, let's skip that bit, since I'm sure you can fill in the blanks.

Upshot is that I've spent the past four days wearing new contacts, and trying to get used to the fact that the strength is much lower (half in one eye!) than before. For the past two or three months, the headaches have been getting worse -- especially when at the computer and thus doing detail kind of things -- and apparently that's because I was wearing contacts or glasses that were over-correcting, but now... I've been dealing with headaches because my eyes aren't used to proper correction and have to work their way down from being over-corrected. AUUUGGGHHH.

If you're not familiar with how toric lenses work and are curious, when you have an astigmatism, this means the back of your eye is kinda bumpy, so things are not uniformly blurry in terms of distance. That is, if you're near-sighted but have no astigmatism, then things will be sharp until you reach the edge of your near-sightedness, and after that it'll start to get blurry. Everyone has this, actually, including folks with 20/20 vision, which just means that from 20 feet away, you can see objects of X size. Beyond 20 feet, objects of that size will be blurry, generally, because you're past the scope of visual acuity.

Astigmatism, and the back-of-the-eye being uneven, puts a kind of blur on everything, in a very unscientific way of explaining it. Having 20/20 vision but astigmatism means that what's only 5 inches away is identically blurry to the object that appears roughly the same size even though it's twenty feet away. That's why astigmatism is more likely to be self-diagnosed as "bad eyes", because people do notice when everything is blurry. It's the near-sighted and far-sighted issues that sneak up on us, because we learn to adjust by, well, just not looking that far away, or by holding what's close at arm's length so it'll be in focus.

As you can guess, this does mean that buying glasses and contacts is more complex. Like for lenses, which normally have three measurements: base curve, diameter, and power. Toric lenses have two more measurements: cylinder and axis. Even then, each company makes a slightly different shape to its lenses, and the exact same combination of five measurements might feel great if you wear Company A's lens, and yet just never seem to 'fit right' with Company B. This is why the optomotrist double- and triple-checked on my lenses to make sure they're CooperVision (one hash mark at the bottom, not two!); the extra detail is that after wearing lenses for awhile, the eye's shape will mold itself to the lens (especially when we're talking slightly-thicker lenses like torics), and switching brands at that point will have a stronger impact. Of course, just don't wear lenses for a month or so and the eye goes back to its original shape, so it's not like this stuff's permanent.

Continuing with the education-for-the-masses, if you purchase toric lenses, the proper procedure is to have you try on a pair right then and there -- and then you basically go through a only-slightly-abbreviated eye exam all over again, this time to make sure the torics fit properly and are fixing everything properly. It's not nearly as quick and easy a procedure as it would be if you don't have astigmatism, but then, astigmatism makes everything ten times more complicated. Okay, that said, it was still really freaking awesome that not only could the doctor see the back of my eyes in the final exam (nothing new there) but could take a picture so I could see it (definitely new) and then PRINT COPIES OUT FOR ME (way new, OMG that's what the back of my eyeball looks like, WAH). I am such a freaking geek, I know, I know.

Here ends the lecture (at least temporarily, you know I drop into that mode automatically), and now I get to wait a week or two, to see how my eyes adjust to being properly corrected. Wednesday I went to bed with a pounding headache, and Thursday wasn't much better, though Friday was incrementally better. If in a week I'm still going ugh by bedtime, then I have to go back and we do it all over again with a slight over-correction, and see if that takes care of it. It's entirely possible that having over-corrected vision for so long means that I just end up having to retain over-corrected vision, which is really kinda bizarre when I think about it, but I'm hoping that's not the case. (It's not like it's more or less expensive, since once we get into astigmatic lenses, it's all more expensive anyway, but whatever.) So for the time being, I'm also holding off on getting new glasses, because that prescription may change as well, depending on how my eyes adjust/react.

Moving right along, I celebrated the unprecedented prescription-strength drop, not by writing my thank-you notes for patronage-kindnesses (let's wait until the headaches are past, please?) but by cleaning up my drill press and getting it working, and then I rewired the table saw. Had to get a new belt for the saw, unfortunately, and next I need to clean the 12" rip-blade of long-term resin and spend an hour checking the carbide bits on the blade's tips (all freaking 100-something of them) to make sure the blade's still good, but then I'll have working table saw! And be able to FINALLY make angled cuts and do tenons and all kinda fancy wonderful things! Plus, I did a minor archaeological dig in the garage last night, and dug up several drill press attachments, which I'll take back to Woodcraft so the awesome guys there can help me figure out a) how the attachments go on the drill press and b) what that tells me about what kind of drill bit to get so I can do square holes for tenons. WAH. The technology! Okay, so it's technology that's, uhm, like, older than my dad but it's technology that now I know for certain WORKS and it's technology that doesn't actually cost me anything. (This is important, given that a seriously-worthwhile 12" table saw blade runs about $100 or more, holy crap.)

On that note, there's a chapter of Koji Ma Oshi upcoming, thanks to [livejournal.com profile] sharibet. (And a short story of whatever [livejournal.com profile] hinotori wants, and another for [personal profile] clarentine.) If I make it through a day without a headache, I'll consider that a good sign & will start writing, since that's at least a half-day at the computer and a bit more for polishing before posting. Fingers crossed my eyes'll be completely adjusted to new scrip in the next few days. There! Something to look forward to.

erm, assuming I don't get so happy with now-working power tools that I cut anything off. GUH. I don't even want to think about it. that I get distracted by the shiny and spend the next week doing cabinetry. *cough*

Date: 14 Nov 2009 05:31 pm (UTC)
branchandroot: oak against sky (Default)
From: [personal profile] branchandroot
*clings to her henna and indigo* Damn right. In another year I may be all silver, and will then have to decide whether I want to do Funky Things with this new, lighter base color, but in the meantime I'm not having any little whippersnapper assuming I'm fifty.

I have also found that the "two week" disposables last a month easy as long as you're taking them out at night. Bastards are totally trying to stiff us for more money.

Date: 15 Nov 2009 08:35 pm (UTC)
From: [personal profile] dsgood
My scalp hair is black, with no sign of turning gray -- at 66 years old. I suspect this is a genetic legacy from Central Asian ancestors (who don't show up in family genealogies.)

However -- when I first grew a beard, about 26 years old, it came in with gray streaks.

Date: 14 Nov 2009 07:20 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] sharibet.livejournal.com
On that note, there's a chapter of Koji Ma Oshi upcoming, thanks to sharibet.

YAY! Thank you! I am looking forward to the treat.

Also, a much bigger cheer for the new glasses and (hopefully) the end of the headaches.

I got my first set of glasses three years ago, when I turned 39, because I work as a technical writer and was developing the pounding headaches after a day spent writing system administrators' guides, and then going home to write more speculative fiction in the evenings. The prospect of no longer being able to write for a living terrified the snot out of me.

So I at least somewhat understand the blessed relief from being able to work at keyboard and monitor without having to pay a price in pain for it.

Re: the table saw: sounds very cool, but then again, power tools usually are. Do you have a particular project in mind?

Date: 14 Nov 2009 10:12 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] sharibet.livejournal.com
*looks back at 20+ years of glasses* I HATE YOU. grrrrr. In my next life, I'm going to be tanned AND have perfect vision. Damn it.

I could rub it in and mention that I haven't started to go gray yet *evil grin* but then I stop and remember that no matter the state of my eyes and hair, you're still a much better writer than I am. (And I mean that sincerely.)

Also not tanned. Pale and kind of freckled and starting to sag around the jowls. The kindest thing you can say about my looks is that I have an honest face.

Date: 14 Nov 2009 08:07 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] okaasan59
When I turned 35 or so my eyes suddenly refused to accommodate contacts anymore, I think because my eyes got drier. I tried several different brands and nothing worked so I just started wearing my glasses all the time. About three years ago (age 47-ish) my vision got bad enough to necessitate the wearing of bifocals. I went with the progressive lenses and I hate them. The field of "good vison" in these things is so narrow it's frustrating. I have gotten used to them to the point that I seldom outright notice but it's still a pain in the butt sometimes. And I still take my glasses off to read things up close because my uncorrected up close vision is waaaaay better than with the glasses. I need them for distance and for arms length stuff.

Date: 14 Nov 2009 08:16 pm (UTC)
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From: [identity profile] chibidrunksanzo.livejournal.com
Ah! I want pictures of the back of my eyeballs!! I still have the pictures of my digestive tract from my colonoscopy and endoscopy. I should make an icon of it.

Date: 14 Nov 2009 09:43 pm (UTC)
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From: [identity profile] chibidrunksanzo.livejournal.com
BLURRY BLACK AND WHITE, NOTHING!! =D =D =D Behold, the pictures of my upper and lower digestive tract!!

Image   Image

Date: 14 Nov 2009 08:49 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] nnayram.livejournal.com
I have high astigmatism as well. A nightmare, combined with 8.00/6.50 (for glasses) near-sightedness~ Or so I thought for many years... But my last eye exam got me so mad that I finally started asking myself some good questions. Then I came across a really awesome book and now it seems like my oldest glasses, about 4.00 diopters on each lense, do the work quite well. I feel like strangling a whole bunch of eye doctors who just kept increasing my prescription over the years...

Well, if you ever get the time, give Dr. William H. Bates's book a chance. ^^ It is called Better Eyesight Without Glasses. There are many new versions and variations of it since its publication in the 1920s, but I still think it is the greatest thing ever written on the topic. ^^v

Date: 14 Nov 2009 10:17 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] starlady
I have a slight astigmatism (and it's been so long since I went to the eye doctor that I can't even remember if it's in one eye or both) and it was the blurriness that got me in to glasses at 17. When I switched to contacts two years later because the glasses had made my vision about 4x worse I was so angry at the eye doctor for not mentioning that glasses would make that happen. So your story of your vision improving makes me hopeful for my future. But my astigmatism isn't bad enough to make me need toric lenses, which sound like a whole 'nother level of fun.

High five, anyway, for making the one-month disposables last forever by rubbing them. I find that the lenses feel much better in my eyes even with no-rub solution.

Date: 15 Nov 2009 03:11 am (UTC)
starlady: Orihime in Hueco Mundo: "damned to be one of us, girl" (damned)
From: [personal profile] starlady
I've noticed the vision gets worse independent, really, of whether it's glasses or contacts. It has a lot more to do with what you're doing -- reading, detail-oriented work (like, say, COLLEGE!) versus less detailed stuff like when I had the bookstore. When you're not spending hours with your nose in a book squinting at the fine print, your eyesight will degrade at a much lower speed.

I'm doomed. I ate carrots like no other as a kid, too--so much for that urban myth.

Date: 15 Nov 2009 01:41 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] taithe.livejournal.com
Haha, in my family I started getting white hair before my mother did which was right around the age of 12-13. The fact that Irish people can get it pretty early too makes me feel better. :)

I was diagnosed with astigmatism and ended up with toric lenses for a bit. The biggest issue with contacts was really the base curve. My eyes must be oddly shaped in the front as well because I'd always need to ask for tighter lenses if the optometrist doesn't pick up on it. It sucks that you were getting headaches due to overcorrection but at least it's fixed now.

I can't believe your eyes got better with age. My biggest fear is that my eyes will keep getting worse and they're already pretty bad. -6.00/-5.25 x.x

Koji ma Oshi sounds familiar. Is it your original story?

Date: 15 Nov 2009 04:09 am (UTC)
hokuton_punch: A picture of the mask man from Mononoke with the sad mask, captioned "Now I am only sad. Sad. Sad." (mononoke masked man sad)
From: [personal profile] hokuton_punch
Put me down for a Mononoke essay on the Noppera-bou arc. :D

Date: 15 Nov 2009 04:41 am (UTC)
hokuton_punch: A photo of a girl in a headscarf smiling during Ramadan. (ramadan eid-ka-chand smiling girl)
From: [personal profile] hokuton_punch
... ooooh that's BRILLIANT. *saves!* I'd still love to hear your analysis of that one specifically, but any of the other arcs would be great, too!