1a. Would prove to you that your relationship would continue -- as true love (forgive the romanticism but what else to call it?) -- even if A/B/C were removed from the equation? Now I can totally be misinterpreting the question all-together, but I think compatibility would, for the most part, prove that the “true love” could continue. And when I say compatibility, I’m thinking more along the lines of do they share common interests? Are there points where there is disagreement? It is impossible (at least when I tried it) to have a good relationship with somebody exactly like you. There is a definite need to have something to disagree on, if only because it will make things you DO agree on that much better. “True Love” may not be as strong, in fact it may be that fledgling “first flush of lust/infatuation” all over again, but there is definitely a base to work on instead of A/B/C.
1b. Could not be duplicated/mimicked by A/B/C and therefore by its existence indicates your love is real? This may be akin to C, but I know that when I look at my man, even after three years together, I still get that little hitch in my heartbeat. Obviously I’m not under a spell, and I don’t take drugs/medicine except for a headache ^_^ but I’m not sure how else to explain what I want to say…=(
2a. Would the means make any difference in your reaction -- that is, whether the in-love is thanks to magical whammy, misfired neurons, or survival instinct gone haywire? I don’t believe it would. I don’t think I’d be very happy knowing that somebody tinkered with my emotions, and I’d probably be in denial for a bit. But emotions are a hard thing to control, and if I’ve felt a certain way about somebody, even under an influence, I don’t think I’d be able to change the way I thought about them.
2b. Which of the three would be most offensive as a means of manipulation (or is it all-the-same)? This is all the same to me. Manipulation is manipulation, whether it be chemical, magical, or physical.
2c. Which would you consider most easily forgiven? (eg, "I can accept drugs but if you magic on me, that's way worse".) Hmmm….I don’t think any one is easier to forgive than the other. Like my answer to 2b., manipulation is manipulation no matter which way you spin it.
3a. Would it make any difference if your in-love state were caused by a specific person's actions (as opposed to honest mistake/accident like tripping a long-dormant spell or drinking the wrong medicine)? No, because it happened. Knowing which one it is is inconsequential when it comes to making a difference.
3b. Which would be worse: to learn it was purposeful, or that it was purely accidental? I think that it being purposeful would be worse, IMO. It means that somebody is manipulating me at their will, instead of fate deciding (for lack of a better term).
4a. If you knew it was purposeful but didn't know the perpetrator's identity would not-knowing be better (or worse)*? It would be worse. Kind of like going to surgery without seeing who the doctor is.
4b. Would you try to find out the perpetrator's identity, anyway? Yes, because if someone has their hand in my life, I’d want to know who it is.
4c. What if the perpetrator were the person you'd fallen in love with? This is the only thing that would make a difference with the “True Love” feeling. Knowing that he had manipulated my feelings unnaturally without my consent would fizzle any feelings I had.
As an addendum to that last one (edited to fit in comment window :-P) completely unforgivable? I don’t think “True Love” could survive after this…it’s such a huge violation of trust that it would eat away at any emotions that could naturally appear, and there will always be a thought in the background, “are these MY feelings, or is it something else?”
On a side note: I hope that the popcorn scraping is going well!
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Date: 28 Oct 2008 09:55 pm (UTC)1b. Could not be duplicated/mimicked by A/B/C and therefore by its existence indicates your love is real? This may be akin to C, but I know that when I look at my man, even after three years together, I still get that little hitch in my heartbeat. Obviously I’m not under a spell, and I don’t take drugs/medicine except for a headache ^_^ but I’m not sure how else to explain what I want to say…=(
2a. Would the means make any difference in your reaction -- that is, whether the in-love is thanks to magical whammy, misfired neurons, or survival instinct gone haywire? I don’t believe it would. I don’t think I’d be very happy knowing that somebody tinkered with my emotions, and I’d probably be in denial for a bit. But emotions are a hard thing to control, and if I’ve felt a certain way about somebody, even under an influence, I don’t think I’d be able to change the way I thought about them.
2b. Which of the three would be most offensive as a means of manipulation (or is it all-the-same)? This is all the same to me. Manipulation is manipulation, whether it be chemical, magical, or physical.
2c. Which would you consider most easily forgiven? (eg, "I can accept drugs but if you magic on me, that's way worse".) Hmmm….I don’t think any one is easier to forgive than the other. Like my answer to 2b., manipulation is manipulation no matter which way you spin it.
3a. Would it make any difference if your in-love state were caused by a specific person's actions (as opposed to honest mistake/accident like tripping a long-dormant spell or drinking the wrong medicine)? No, because it happened. Knowing which one it is is inconsequential when it comes to making a difference.
3b. Which would be worse: to learn it was purposeful, or that it was purely accidental? I think that it being purposeful would be worse, IMO. It means that somebody is manipulating me at their will, instead of fate deciding (for lack of a better term).
4a. If you knew it was purposeful but didn't know the perpetrator's identity would not-knowing be better (or worse)*? It would be worse. Kind of like going to surgery without seeing who the doctor is.
4b. Would you try to find out the perpetrator's identity, anyway? Yes, because if someone has their hand in my life, I’d want to know who it is.
4c. What if the perpetrator were the person you'd fallen in love with? This is the only thing that would make a difference with the “True Love” feeling. Knowing that he had manipulated my feelings unnaturally without my consent would fizzle any feelings I had.
As an addendum to that last one (edited to fit in comment window :-P) completely unforgivable? I don’t think “True Love” could survive after this…it’s such a huge violation of trust that it would eat away at any emotions that could naturally appear, and there will always be a thought in the background, “are these MY feelings, or is it something else?”
On a side note: I hope that the popcorn scraping is going well!