If you can't even get someone to grant the other side basic human dignity, there's little hope of a good resolution...
That is, funnily enough, one of my main problems with the promoters of forgiveness for everything, no matter how horrid the act. If the victimizer isn't even seriously willing to face up to their wrongdoing and treat the victim as an actual human being who was seriously wronged, why should the victim have to even consider the possibility?
There are other things, like many of the claims said by forgiveness promoters about forgiveness I've yet to see be held under serious scientific scrutiny (if you read the rhetoric they make it almost sounds like it practically cures AIDS and PTSD, how is this different from snake oil salesmen?).
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Date: 12 Jun 2011 09:55 pm (UTC)That is, funnily enough, one of my main problems with the promoters of forgiveness for everything, no matter how horrid the act. If the victimizer isn't even seriously willing to face up to their wrongdoing and treat the victim as an actual human being who was seriously wronged, why should the victim have to even consider the possibility?
There are other things, like many of the claims said by forgiveness promoters about forgiveness I've yet to see be held under serious scientific scrutiny (if you read the rhetoric they make it almost sounds like it practically cures AIDS and PTSD, how is this different from snake oil salesmen?).