I've told this story in a couple of places about how an old Skool Gardnerian priest and priestess came to do a guest ritual. There were two MTFs and me, and our circle hadn't even blinked-- just let us perform as our preferred gender. These old people however, completely ignored the circle's policies and shifted us so that we stood in accordance with our body's sex. The ladies were too ladylike to say anything, but I protested-- and the priest told me our gender didn't matter, only our sex.
So Garderians can be fundy too.
I had to make the decision to... well, not to ruin the day for everyone else. And it was the day that Bush announced "we" were at war with afghanistan, and we all needed some comfort in community, so I stood between two gay men who gave me conspiratorial winks.
Thing is, I completely understand the Dianics wanting that particular ritual to be about the ovaries and the blood. I'm cool with that. I don't see any reason to be inclusive at all times. BUT!
What the community needs to learn is that inclusivity will become the norm more and more, and that intent for an exclusive ritual needs to be spelled out. That assumption of exclusivity is a privilege that must be given up.
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Date: 7 Mar 2011 05:23 am (UTC)So Garderians can be fundy too.
I had to make the decision to... well, not to ruin the day for everyone else. And it was the day that Bush announced "we" were at war with afghanistan, and we all needed some comfort in community, so I stood between two gay men who gave me conspiratorial winks.
Thing is, I completely understand the Dianics wanting that particular ritual to be about the ovaries and the blood. I'm cool with that. I don't see any reason to be inclusive at all times. BUT!
What the community needs to learn is that inclusivity will become the norm more and more, and that intent for an exclusive ritual needs to be spelled out. That assumption of exclusivity is a privilege that must be given up.