I think arguing/not arguing in public can vary a *lot* depending on family. I mean, we kept all our shit private but then it was also the sort of emotionally abusive situation where everyone presents a good front ...
I suspect that the major difference, regionally, might be concern with loss of face? Like, it matters less *if* you argue in public?
I do remember, one time, witnessing a disagreement between a friend and her mother (they live in Kentucky; I don't recall if my friend's mother grew up in that state but she was raised to be a Southern belle, basically). And they apologized to me for witnessing their "argument" and I was thinking, "... what argument?" Bc that's not what I'd call an argument at all. But then, like I said, I grew up in a fucked up family with a Jeckyll&Hyde mother.
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Date: 13 Jan 2011 05:13 pm (UTC)I suspect that the major difference, regionally, might be concern with loss of face? Like, it matters less *if* you argue in public?
I do remember, one time, witnessing a disagreement between a friend and her mother (they live in Kentucky; I don't recall if my friend's mother grew up in that state but she was raised to be a Southern belle, basically). And they apologized to me for witnessing their "argument" and I was thinking, "... what argument?" Bc that's not what I'd call an argument at all. But then, like I said, I grew up in a fucked up family with a Jeckyll&Hyde mother.