Although (and this is tangental) I have only encountered three gay men in total who are in fact baffled by this question...
Well, I do recall (years ago) a gay friend commenting on the fact that his best friend (a straight woman) thought gay sex was pretty hot. Ben's observation to me was that, "well, of course it's hot. If it weren't, I wouldn't do it." To him, it seemed like a pleasantly obvious observation for anyone to make, with a side order of duh. Heh.
I think it's mostly the framing around the GFY message. Positioned properly, then it's something everyone would consider pretty obvious and completely understandable. When it's positioned (or written) more like the author is trying to sidestep the political ramifications of calling oneself "gay", then, yes, there are skeevy bits of homophobia sneaking in there -- but still working on that post. Err, once I lay down a bit more flooring, and then onto the next post, that is.
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Date: 7 Mar 2010 08:06 pm (UTC)Well, I do recall (years ago) a gay friend commenting on the fact that his best friend (a straight woman) thought gay sex was pretty hot. Ben's observation to me was that, "well, of course it's hot. If it weren't, I wouldn't do it." To him, it seemed like a pleasantly obvious observation for anyone to make, with a side order of duh. Heh.
I think it's mostly the framing around the GFY message. Positioned properly, then it's something everyone would consider pretty obvious and completely understandable. When it's positioned (or written) more like the author is trying to sidestep the political ramifications of calling oneself "gay", then, yes, there are skeevy bits of homophobia sneaking in there -- but still working on that post. Err, once I lay down a bit more flooring, and then onto the next post, that is.