Someone on my flist posted a self-critique about the issue of trust, or lack thereof: not able to trust in general, not able to trust anything, that something/one can provide or be a place a safety, a respite. I didn't reply there because -- being someone with a similar mindset -- I suspect my response may have seemed offensive to anyone doing their best to assure my LJ-friend about friendship good intentions and support.
Thing is, this is one of those instances where the only thing to do is accept that sometimes, when a person says, "it's not you, it's me," that this really is the truth -- and then rather than kneejerk, stop and think.
( Dynamics of reaction, if anyone's asking me; curious that our reactions often say more us than they do about the person we're ostensibly discussing. )Note: none of this applies to Jay Lygon, who ALREADY GETS IT.ETA: there's a difference between a person with control issues who gives the appearance of distrust as a result of inability to rely/delegate, versus someone with trust issues who ends up trying to control things as a coping mechanism for dealing with fear/anxiety. The two are not the same.