I think when SOs do treatment like that, it is (sometimes) because the parent/child relationship is their major template for how you act with someone you love. One of my closest friends is veryveryveryAlpha (and yes it gets teeth-gnashing sometimes); although the curious thing is he's not really that possessive, he's ultra-protective. There is a feeling, often, when I'm with him, that he's treating me like a child.
(A'course, then you also get into gender issues, which can be created pre-relationship, that is, before sex even comes into one's life as a way to relate.)
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Date: 20 Sep 2008 04:42 pm (UTC)(A'course, then you also get into gender issues, which can be created pre-relationship, that is, before sex even comes into one's life as a way to relate.)