I only got here by questioning, damn it, because I was fed the same line as everyone else (with the possible exception being from my mother and grandmother, who were both pretty much like, "it's your body, do what you want, be safe, and if you don't like what's happening, tell the guy to stop, and then walk away.")
My parents have been remarkably quiet, probably because I went to schools with progressive sex ed programs (now my mother's a little louder and will tease my sisters because they're so shy about it), but I also read way too many books up until high school and read fanfic starting at the end of junior high or so (including yaoi, which was a shocker at first). So I guess I've always been in a more open environment, and so people who were exposed to the more mainstream, conservative accepted ideals on sex confused me.
So here with the ideals most Japanese girls have about gender, let alone sex, I get frustrated pretty quickly. It is changing, but slowly.
Ohhh, losing your virginity is this Massive Step and So Important and You'll Always Treasure The Moment.
I was criticized by one of my better friends, even, because I didn't exactly remember when my first time was - hell, I was with the same guy for three years and we had sex a lot and I have a bad memory anyway, so it all blurred together and it didn't/doesn't bother me, so I'm not sure why it bothered her. (And I had no pain/blood, so I guess certain groups of people could argue I had no virginity to begin with. *chuckle*)
And earlier than that, friends acting upset because the guy dumped me not because he dumped me in a horrible way, which was why I was upset, but because we had had sex. *sigh*
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Date: 3 Dec 2005 05:58 am (UTC)My parents have been remarkably quiet, probably because I went to schools with progressive sex ed programs (now my mother's a little louder and will tease my sisters because they're so shy about it), but I also read way too many books up until high school and read fanfic starting at the end of junior high or so (including yaoi, which was a shocker at first). So I guess I've always been in a more open environment, and so people who were exposed to the more mainstream, conservative accepted ideals on sex confused me.
So here with the ideals most Japanese girls have about gender, let alone sex, I get frustrated pretty quickly. It is changing, but slowly.
Ohhh, losing your virginity is this Massive Step and So Important and You'll Always Treasure The Moment.
I was criticized by one of my better friends, even, because I didn't exactly remember when my first time was - hell, I was with the same guy for three years and we had sex a lot and I have a bad memory anyway, so it all blurred together and it didn't/doesn't bother me, so I'm not sure why it bothered her. (And I had no pain/blood, so I guess certain groups of people could argue I had no virginity to begin with. *chuckle*)
And earlier than that, friends acting upset because the guy dumped me not because he dumped me in a horrible way, which was why I was upset, but because we had had sex. *sigh*